(All names have been changed and some details amended to provide complete anonymity for our clients)

Melanie & Dan from Washington United States (2 children and a dog) – From Disconnection to Deep Partnership

When Melanie and Dan first came to us, their marriage was stretched thin. Dan was emotionally distant, often checked out or reactive, clinging to old patterns of self-preservation. Melanie, overwhelmed and burnt out, felt like the only adult in the room—running the household, parenting alone, and carrying the emotional weight of the relationship. Their communication was riddled with blame, shutdowns, and resentment. Beneath it all were unhealed family wounds, unmet expectations, and a shared fear that this was just how marriage ends up.

What unfolded over the following months was nothing short of remarkable. Dan confronted hard truths about his ego, his addiction to approval, and his resistance to real change. He began showing up—consistently—for the first time: joining men’s groups, cooking family dinners, replacing fantasy with responsibility. Melanie, in turn, learned to release control, express her needs without resentment, and stop trying to carry everyone. Together, they rebuilt connection through honest conversations, shared goals, family meetings, and simple, daily follow-through. Today, their marriage is no longer defined by survival—but by teamwork, presence, and mutual respect. It wasn’t easy. But it was absolutely worth it.

Tom & Diane from Ontario Canada (3 kids, 2 dogs, 2 cats, lots of rabbits and chickens)– Rebuilding Trust, Respect, and a Shared Load

​​“It's not just about making you feel better, it's about digging deep into what is causing those feelings and instead of putting a band-aid on, addressing where it comes from and why I feel that way, so I can move forward and grow. He truly cares from the bottom of his heart”

Tom and Diane came to us in a state many couples will recognise—resentful, exhausted, and locked in a pattern where no one felt heard. Tom felt dismissed and unappreciated, longing for connection but expressing it through frustration, anger, and a sense of entitlement—particularly around sex. He had a high sex drive and believed that physical intimacy was the reward for his hard work, often expecting closeness at the end of the day without making meaningful effort to build emotional connection along the way. Diane, overwhelmed by the constant pressure to hold everything together, felt unseen and used—emotionally starved but still expected to meet every practical and physical demand. Communication had become transactional at best, explosive at worst. They were stuck in a loop of unmet needs, unspoken hurts, and growing distance.

Through our work together, they began to unpack the deeper stories driving their reactions—childhood patterns, gender expectations, emotional triggers—and learned to replace criticism with ownership. Tom confronted his assumptions around sex, entitlement, and emotional labour, and began showing up in new ways—offering connection without an agenda. Diane stepped out of survival mode, made space for her own needs, and learned to express boundaries without guilt. Together, they restructured the emotional and practical load of the home, introduced family meetings, revisited their intimacy with fresh honesty, and rebuilt their parenting around values—not control. Today, their home feels lighter. There’s laughter, teamwork, mutual respect—and for the first time in years, they’re not just co-existing. They’re actually in it together.

Sienna & Roman from Northwest UK (2 children and a Tesla) – From Final Straw to a New Beginning

“Ben gets me and touches on a part of my soul that has been neglected. His intuition and ability to go away and come back to something is beautiful.”

When Sienna and Roman began working with us, they were on the brink of separation. For Sienna, it felt like the end of the road—she had reached the point where staying felt heavier than leaving. Roman, while not oblivious, had been emotionally disconnected and slow to act, often retreating into frustration, overthinking, or avoidance. The weight of daily life—money pressures, mismatched intimacy, parenting—had created a gulf between them. Sienna felt alone in the relationship, carrying too much, for too long. Roman didn’t know how to meet her where she was, and the more he withdrew, the more she considered walking away for good.

What followed was a complete shift in how they saw themselves and each other. Roman began confronting the stories he’d been living inside—especially the fear that if he really showed up, he might still fall short. He started applying for jobs that suited his real strengths, asked directly for support when he needed it, and began contributing in ways that built real trust, not just effort. Together, they redefined what partnership looked like—less about perfection, more about presence. Sienna softened as Roman became more engaged, emotionally available, and consistent. They replaced silent tension with honest dialogue, pressure with play, and confusion with clarity. Today, they’re not just still together—they’re moving forward with intention, joy, and a sense of shared purpose neither thought possible at the beginning.

Isla & Dylan from NorthEast UK (3 Children, 1 dog and plenty of cats) – From Emotional Exhaustion to Deeper Understanding

When Isla and Dylan came to us, their marriage was buckling under invisible strain. Isla was carrying the emotional weight of the entire household—children, aging parents, domestic logistics, extended family—all while suppressing her own needs. Dylan, feeling emotionally disconnected and lonely, longed for closeness but didn’t know how to ask without it sounding like pressure. Conversations often broke down into silence or conflict. Dylan felt judged and shut out; Isla felt overwhelmed and unseen. Intimacy was all but gone, and both were retreating into quiet resentment, each believing they were doing their best but feeling misunderstood and unappreciated.

Through our work, they began slowly untangling the deeper layers. Dylan started to see how his attempts at connection, especially around physical closeness, could land as expectation or even judgment. He stepped back from seeking quick resolution and leaned into listening—really listening—to Isla’s world. Isla, in turn, began exploring how years of guilt and people-pleasing had made it nearly impossible for her to express what she actually wanted without shame or defensiveness. Together, they created a new rhythm: family meetings to build shared leadership, clearer conversations around parenting, and the emotional courage to let each other in, without fixing or defending. They haven’t "arrived," but they’ve moved from survival toward something far more sacred—mutual understanding, respect, and a foundation they can keep building on.

Catherine & James from South London (2 children, 0 Dogs and 0 Cats, but watch this space) – From Friction to Partnership

When Catherine and James began working with us, their relationship was locked in a cycle of miscommunication, invisible labour, and mounting resentment. Catherine felt like the default parent and emotional load-bearer—carrying the logistics, the care, the chaos—and was growing increasingly burnt out. James, though deeply committed, was often focused on external pursuits and personal routines, unintentionally sidelining the family’s needs. Conversations would derail into frustration, and conflict was often avoided rather than resolved. James felt criticised and unappreciated. Catherine felt unseen, undervalued, and—worst of all—alone in the partnership.

Over time, they began to untangle what was really going on beneath the surface. James began showing up more actively at home, initiating family meetings, learning to listen without defensiveness, and recognising where his efforts—though well-intended—weren’t landing. He started to shift from focusing on “doing more” to “being present,” carving out daily connection time with Catherine and the kids. Catherine began exploring the deeper wounds beneath her frustration—the feeling of being used, of always needing to justify her needs, and of not mattering. Together, they rebuilt emotional safety by changing how they spoke to each other, by naming responsibilities clearly (rather than assuming), and by shifting from fairness arguments to shared values.

They’re not finished. But they’ve moved from parallel lives into shared leadership—learning to slow down, take responsibility, and prioritise connection over control. It’s a marriage being re-authored—not through perfection, but through presence, patience, and a growing sense of we’re actually in this together.

Peter from Portugal – Letting Go Without Losing Yourself

When Peter came to us, he was standing at a personal crossroads—fresh from a breakup, emotionally raw, and determined not to collapse into bitterness or regret. What he wanted was rare: to exit a meaningful relationship not with misery or revenge fantasies, but with love, clarity, and integrity. Beneath the surface, however, were deeper battles—grief, shame, a sense of failure, and the gnawing belief that he just couldn’t hold a relationship together.

Through our work, Peter began unpicking the stories that had silently shaped his worldview for years. We explored his discomfort with authority and control, his longing to be admired, and the judgment that had quietly crept into how he related to others—and himself. We talked about fairness, rejection, and the kind of ego that demands certainty before taking emotional risks. Slowly, he started recognizing that his reactions—whether toward lost time, failed business deals, or old partners—were tied to much older wounds around self-worth and being unseen.

Instead of numbing the grief or jumping into the next relationship to prove his value, Peter committed to meeting his pain head-on. He learned to see his time, energy, and vulnerability not as things to protect at all costs, but as sacred resources to offer wisely. He practiced compassion where there had once been disgust, ownership where there had once been blame. His story didn’t need to end in self-hate—it could end in self-respect. Peter’s journey wasn’t about finding the perfect next partner. It was about becoming the kind of man who could love deeply, let go gracefully, and walk away whole.

Samuel & Sacha from Midlands (5 Children, 2 ‘smelly’ dogs) – Running a Business, a Family, and Themselves Into the Ground (Until They Didn’t)

“Ben has a gift to be able to communicate that we have self worth. He hits it hard without any caution or carefulness, it is raw and direct without packaging - his message is always - you are enough, you are lovable, you are doing great”

When Samuel and Sacha arrived at coaching, they were a couple in constant motion but with very little movement. Joint business owners and parents to five children, their lives looked successful on the surface—but privately, both were running on fumes. Sacha was emotionally exhausted, carrying the mental load of the household, family relationships, and her own invisible grief. Samuel, on the other hand, felt the crushing pressure of being a provider while battling the fear that he was failing as both a man and a partner. Their communication was littered with judgment, silent resentment, and the deep loneliness of not feeling understood.

The story under the story was this: Sacha, driven by a deep need to prove her worth, was stuck in a pattern of over-functioning, hoping that once everything was sorted, connection would magically follow. Samuel, feeling like he was constantly on the edge of being replaced or not measuring up, swung between defensiveness and withdrawal. Parenting was reactive. Business leadership felt chaotic. And intimacy? A distant idea somewhere between a to-do list and a breakdown.

Through coaching, they began dismantling the belief systems that were driving their burnout. They explored childhood wounds that had calcified into adult identities—Samuel’s belief that he was unlovable unless achieving; Sacha’s terror that she would ultimately be left. Together, they learned new rules for communication: no character assassinations, no smart-aleck rebuttals, and no fixing mid-argument. They implemented practical changes too: family meetings, clearer delegation in the business, and personal ownership around their reactivities. Of course what was missing wasn’t just listening but listening for the right things.

Andy & Mae from South West UK (3 Children, 1 dog) – From Disconnection and Resentment to Realignment and Repair

Andy and Mae came to coaching in a state of emotional depletion. Their home was functional, but the marriage had slipped into roles—Mae as the over-functioning parent and household manager, Andy as the relaxed, emotionally distant partner. From the outside, they looked like a couple managing well. On the inside, Mae felt like the designated “ogre parent,” burdened with the emotional load of parenting, decision-making, and keeping the family structure afloat. Andy, while well-meaning, defaulted to being chilled and easygoing—but in a way that left Mae feeling unseen, unsupported, and, at times, infuriated.

Underneath their practical disagreements were deep personal wounds. Mae carried a core belief that her value depended on being helpful and correct—yet she never felt truly heard or validated. When Andy didn’t respond or took a laid-back stance, she experienced it not as kindness but as abandonment. His emotional swings, periods of inattention, and lack of foresight into her or the kids’ needs only deepened this wound. For Andy, his good intentions often got lost in translation. He was trying to treat Mae the way he would like to be treated: with low pressure and freedom. What neither realised was that this mismatch of styles was reinforcing each other’s deepest fears—Mae’s of being invisible and unworthy, Andy’s of never being enough and always getting it wrong.

Their work involved both strategic structure and emotional exploration. They started running family meetings together—Andy leading with lightness, Mae bringing the order. They outlined clear systems for food, screens, and house rules, learning that consistent parenting wasn’t about fairness to parents but clarity for kids. At the same time, they began addressing the emotional dynamics that sat below the surface. Mae bravely explored her history with her father—the patterns of silence, emotional minimisation, and over-accommodation that left her terrified of expressing needs or setting boundaries. She began naming her feelings earlier, rather than letting them build into explosion or withdrawal. Andy learned to listen—not to fix, justify, or compare, but to stay with Mae when she was hurting.

While there are still flare-ups and hard weeks, Mae no longer feels entirely alone in the parenting trenches. Andy has stepped into more emotional presence, not just task-sharing. Their kids are seeing a different kind of leadership—one where love includes listening, and responsibility is shared. They are, quite beautifully, learning to rebuild a partnership—not by returning to what was, but by building something new, rooted in respect, vulnerability, and practical change.