I’m Ben Leppier, with my wife Kerry, we founded The Damn Good Listener. For more than ten years, we’ve helped individuals and couples understand the patterns beneath their arguments, disconnection and defensiveness.

The Enneagram is a centuries-old system for exploring the motivations that shape how we think, feel and relate. But this isn’t simply another personality test designed to put you in a box.

We’ve created the DGL Enneagram Relationship Indicator to help you recognise the pattern you bring into close relationships, particularly when you feel misunderstood, threatened or under pressure. Your result is a strong hypothesis, not a verdict: something to explore with honesty, curiosity and perhaps the occasional uncomfortable laugh.