When Love Listens
The Marriage Book You Never Got (But Definitely Needed)
Most marriage books hand you advice like a screwdriver, fix this, tighten that, patch it up and carry on.
This isn’t one of those books.
When Love Listens is a deep, honest, and sometimes uncomfortable conversation about what it really means to share a life with someone. Not the Instagram version. The real, messy, maddening, heart-shifting kind. The kind where your childhood wounds shake hands with theirs. The kind where love isn’t a feeling, it’s a practice.
Written by relationship coach Ben Leppier, this book weaves together stories from real couples, timeless wisdom, and the raw truths uncovered in years of working with marriages on the brink. It's a guide, yes, but it’s also a mirror, a reckoning, and a path back to connection.
Whether you're trying to find your way back to each other after years of silence, or you’re just tired of the same three arguments on repeat, this book doesn’t offer quick fixes. It offers something better: understanding, tools that actually work, and a chance to rebuild from the inside out.
Inside the book, you’ll find:
Why most of us are terrible at truly listening—and how to change that
How childhood patterns quietly sabotage your intimacy
The unspoken emotional labour keeping your relationship stuck
Practical tools like the Couples’ Money Meeting Checklist
A whole section just for men who want to grow the hell up (in a good way)
...and honest questions to help you both feel seen, not just talked at.
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Podcast: Foxy and Wilko: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/i-am-with-jonny-wilkinson/id1610549437?i=1000602061492